Auspicious Dates For Weddings At A Glance

The procedures of an ancient Chinese marriage are captured within the phrase "Three (3) Letters and Six (6) Etiquettes".

The 3 Letters will be the engagement letter, the delivery of gifts letter as well as the taking of the bride letter.

In ancient times, if a man is thinking about a woman, he will engage a middlemen (a middle-women actually) to explore the possibility and if appropriate to convey his intentions to the woman's family. If the woman's family finds him acceptable, they will notify him and he could make the official proposal by delivering the formal letter of engagement on an auspicious date.

At this stage the women's family can still say no to the proposal. While you would expect you will find still a lot of things to sort out as well as to negotiate reviews over at Academyarete.

Should the proposal is accepted, the next phase is to deliver wedding gifts to the woman's family. These wedding gifts that are normally expensive are accompanied through the 'Delivery of Gift' letter which is essentially a list of items and quantity much like a delivery order! By signing this letter and taking delivery of the gifts, it signifies the women's family acceptance of the marriage.

The itemized 'Delivery of Gift' letter can also be a safeguard against pilferage through the delivery team!

The third letter is called the 'Taking the Bride' Letter as it is the letter that the groom produces when he arrives at the bride's home on the wedding day. Upon acceptance of the letter, the bride is deemed to have joined the groom and become a member of the groom's family.

It's no wonder why the bride mothers weep uncontrollably on wedding days. It's like losing a daughter!

It refers to the six main procedures in an ancient Chinese marriage. It comprises the official proposal, the checking of Ba Zi (compatibility using a system of Chinese Astrology), selection of auspicious date for the wedding, delivery of gifts, confirmation of wedding dates and then finally the wedding itself.

In the event the man has set his eyes on the girl, he sends an official proposal to the woman's family. Once the proposal is accepted, he will seek the services of an astrologer to ascertain should they are compatible. Research will also be done to guarantee that there is no blood relationship between them. At this stage the engagement can be called off if they are not compatible or if perhaps their blood line are somewhat connected.